The Language of Love
Let’s begin by stating that love is a verb, an action taken to convey the deep affection that you feel for someone. We all have differences in the way we put our feelings into words. Our words can empower and motivate. They can give what all of us want to have, encouragement, and a declaration of endearment. These words need to be empathetic, understanding the feelings of others. It should not be judgmental, but instead, be actual words of affirmation.
Whether vocal or written, the tone of our words can cause misinterpretation. Often just the sound will make the first impression before the message is received. The person who is acquiring these words should not be left to guess what you mean. The tone of your voice sets the stage for your intention. Spoken words in haste can be a regret. A benefit of writing down what you want to say gives you the ability to go over it before given, making adjustments in tone, being careful how and what you wish to express. Put yourself in their place and imagine these words directed towards you.
It is important to note that you can share the hurt and pain caused by misunderstandings through words of love. Anger can also be conveyed by carefully listening, not accusing, talking calmly about the issue to reach a mutual understanding. This action is often awkward but can be extremely rewarding.
Sharing your feelings, being honest, and expressing how vital that person is to you, speaks love. It could instill a reaction of affection rather than a defensive rebuttal. At this point, forgiveness comes into play as a commitment, an act of love.
We choose to love. You cannot demand love or give love under threat or guilt. There is no love there. Love is not an obligation. It is given freely and grows when reciprocated. It is an emotional need we choose to bestow and desire to have provided to us. Words are an essential way to communicate the action of love.