Are you ever curious if healing from emotional scars is really possible? Can someone recover from trauma, rejection, depression, or a broken heart? Maybe you’ve been hurting for a lengthy time, and things don’t seem to be getting better. Perhaps you feel lost and like you’ve tried everything which hasn’t improved. Or perhaps you think you’re too old, or it’s too late for you to improve. When you feel defeated and broken, the task of reinventing or rebuilding yourself and your life feels daunting. It is normal to have doubts to question if emotional healing is really conceivable.
Emotional healing is possible.
I want to guarantee you that emotional healing is possible. But, it’s accurate that not everyone returns to emotional well-being. Some people experience deep emotional hurt, repeat unhealthy relationships and behaviors, and struggle with distorted and negative thoughts.
Tips for healing from emotional wounds
Take baby steps.
Attempting to make too many adjustments all at once can backfire. You can become overwhelmed or believe you’re a failure if you set unrealistic expectations. And climatic changes are often unsustainable. Creating small, incremental, and manageable changes create feelings of encouragement, success, and hope that are essential to carry you through your healing process.
Remember that you won’t have to heal 100% to improve your life’s quality.
Many people falsely believe that emotional healing is all-or-nothing. Again, this idea can be overwhelming and discouraging. But more importantly, it’s not correct. Any reasonable amount of healing will increase the quality of your life. Take it one move at a time, and you will see small improvements in your attitude, ability to deal with triggers, self-esteem, relationships, and ability to perform your daily activities.
Be patient and persistent.
Healing is a lot of effort. We need to be calm and allow the time required to gain new skills and insights. And we need to be tenacious and keep going even when it gets tough, be willing to try new methods, and challenge ourselves in new directions.
Set realistic expectations.
I’m a big believer in the value of setting practical expectations. When we don’t, we often feel frustrated and disappointed in ourselves, which doesn’t improve us. One of the most basic unrealistic expectations is assuming progress will be consistently progressive.
Nobody just gets more powerful and stronger, better and healthier. Progress is much more likely to be two steps forward and one step back. And, truthfully, don’t be shocked if sometimes it’s two steps backward and one onward.
This isn’t a failure. It’s an actuality. And realistic expectations joined with self-compassion, patience, and persistence, will lead to the forwarding process. It may include a few deviations and be slower than you’d like.
View setbacks as part of the healing process and training opportunities.
Setbacks are healthy, but they also often acquire more from what doesn’t work than what does. Instead of attempting to avoid relapses and setbacks, accept that they are part of the process and stimulate yourself to be inquisitive about what you can learn to help you move forward and toward greater self-love and healing.
Prioritize self-compassion and self-care.
When you expect a lot of yourself, you must provide a lot. And working on emotional healing takes a ridiculous amount of energy, time, and often money. To keep running, you need to really pay heed to your feelings and your physical responses in your body (such as fatigue, tight muscles, headaches, etc.) because these are your body’s way of informing you what it needs.
Take the extra moment to listen and take great care of yourself.
Be willing to process your emotions about the past.
Trying to evade what’s happened in your past doesn’t usually work. Those feelings stick around, sometimes lying numb or dormant for a while. Still, they finally burst back into our consciousness with revenge.
This is why therapists so often speak about needing to observe your feelings. It’s required to feel them and give them time before losing their power over us and becoming part of the past. You can casually work on sitting silently, allowing your feelings to surface, naming them, and examining what they’re about.
For many people, this is very challenging, and operating with a therapist can be helpful.
Ask for help.
Healing isn’t expected to be done in solitude. It isn’t easy to ask for advice, especially if people have deceived you in the past. But reaching out for guidance has many benefits- emotional assistance, guidance, and the ability to break down the embarrassment.
And relief can take many different configurations depending on your needs, so I hope you’ll look at it as a different form of self-care and request the kind of help that best fits your needs.